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Five Ways to Improve Your Self-Esteem

November 25, 2009

Having a healthy self esteem is essential if we are to achieve what we want out of life, but knowing how to get or raise self esteem can be difficult, especially if ours is very low. When our self esteem falls below a healthy level, we can feel worthless and will doubt that we could ever achieve anything so we are afraid to even try. No matter how low your self esteem is, it is possible to build and develop it. Here are six ways of raising your self esteem.

Take baby steps. Plan a small challenge each day to build your confidence. If you are shy, resolve to smile at a stranger or start a conversation. Start to learn a new skill or enroll in night school. Make your challenges a little more difficult each day.
Stop negative self talk. It is so easy to fall into the trap of saying negative statements such as ‘I’m no good at that’ or ‘I’ll never get the hang of this’, or laugh off a compliment. Every time you do this it sends signals to your self conscious, and the negative talk then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Make a point of listening to your own conversation and stop yourself when you are about to say something negative.

Practice self care. Have your hair fixed regularly, treat yourself to a facial or a massage, or make time to enjoy a soak in the bath or a novel. Buy yourself flowers. This will give your subconscious the message that you are worth taking care of and will help to build self esteem. If you are not happy with your weight or lifestyle, aim to make healthy changes- eat a balanced diet, start an exercise plan and find ways to stop unhealthy habits such as smoking. You will feel much better about yourself and your self esteem will rise as a result.

Learn to deal with criticism. Many people choose to put others down in order to feel better about themselves. If somebody criticizes you, ask yourself whether the criticism is justified. If it is not, try not to dwell on it. If you need to respond, simply state something like “That’s your opinion”. If you feel that the criticism is justified, then take on board what the other person is saying; good criticism is never an attack on you personally but a guide to how you could have done something better. Resolve to learn the lesson for next time; if the criticism has upset you, try talking to the person who dealt it and explain how it has made you feel.

Make a list of all your accomplishments, skills and things you do well. Write down everything you can think of, no matter how minor. Write all you have achieved so far in your life; it will boost your self esteem to see it in writing.

Practice positive affirmations. Look in the mirror each day and say ‘I like myself!’ This may make you laugh at first, but your subconscious will take the message on board. Make up your own affirmations and write them down on a card so you can carry them with you and read them regularly. These can be anything from ‘I can do this’ to ‘I can handle whatever life throws at me’. Think up affirmations that apply to your life; the more personal these are to you the more likely they are to work.

Remember that it is perfectly possible to raise self esteem, so use these tips and start raising yours straightaway. To learn more about how to raise your self esteem, visit http://www.therichestlife.com.

The Invisible Bridge

November 11, 2009

The Invisible Bridge Between the Law of Attraction and Reality

Scientists and skeptics deny the existence of the law of attraction.

If you have done any reading on the subject then you have heard
it all before. They say that thoughts have no energy and no effect
on the “outside” world.

For the people who are in the crossroads and don’t know what
to believe then this is especially for you. There exists an invisible
bridge that will provide a path into the world of attraction.

And guess what?

This bridge has long ago been established through scientific experiments. It is an involved activity that is studied and taught by practitioners that are members of the scientific community.

Yes, the bridge is invisible but very much real.

We call it the dream world. These are not your ordinary dreams. They
are a specific type of dream known as lucid dreams.

For those that don’t know; a lucid dream is basically a dream in which
a person is aware that he is dreaming. However, it does not stop there.

Not only are you aware that you are dreaming but you can also willfully
participate in it. You can change the environment; do things that
you normally couldn’t do while awake; and essentially flout the “laws”
of nature and social norms.

Some of my really imaginative readers are probably already thinking of
some of the adventurous activities that they can indulge in. However, we shall stay focused on the “real world” uses that you may instantly apply to your everyday life.

There are other advantages besides the sensual overload you may experience from actually living your dreams.

Advantages that are directly linked to the law of attraction and your waking life might include:

Facing ANY fear in your dream that you encounter in
waking life. In your dreams the emotions and increased
heart rate are the same as being awake but the threat is
only a figment of your imagination.

Learn or practice an art, sport, vocals, math, etc.
In a lucid dream your brain is registering information
and experiencing the same phenomena just as it does in
the “real world.”

Seem amazingly confident giving a speech; asking
her out on a date; or at that job interview you have
in the morning. Why would you be nervous? You’ve
Already been there; done that. Right?

You can use this to battle insomnia. Why struggle to
sleep when an adventure, romance or drama awaits
you every night?

The only limitation to this technique is the limitation of your imagination.

So, we are now getting the picture of one sure fire way of harnessing the
law of attraction. Not only are we going to reap the rewards of our thoughts in the real world but we are now able to experience them before they even happen.

No more fear
No more doubt
No more restrictions.

Also, one last note.

Many people: scientist, mystics and psychologists included;
believe that the dream world is actually the gateway or link
between the waking world and the unconscious. By tapping into
your unconscious you are entering the domain of your deepest
yet most authentic desires. The core-self underneath it all.

By uncovering the true you and then using the law to consciously
attract what you really want
will bring great power and joy.

What a marvelous combination to experience every hour of the day.

Or night.

Turning Failure Into Success

October 13, 2009

We’ve all experienced the feeling of failure when something we’ve attempted hasn’t worked out the way we had hoped. However, it is possible to turn that failure into success. We need to accept that failure will always be a part of our life, and the only way to avoid it would be to stop trying to achieve anything. We first experience failure as a child when we try to walk. We fall and stumble, but instead of feeling we have failed and we may as well stop trying to walk, we get back up and keep trying until we eventually master it. The key to changing failure into success is to completely change how we view failure.

Many people think that if they have failed at something, for example a business or a relationship, then this means that they can’t be successful in business or love. The key is to see each failure as a stepping stone to eventual success. Every time we fail, we learn how not to do something so we can choose to do it differently next time. The person who failed at starting a business can take the lessons learned, and choose to run his next business differently. The person who has failed in a relationship can choose to change aspects of their behavior to ensure that their next relationship works better.

Many successful businessmen and entrepreneurs have a history of failed businesses, and have even filed for bankruptcy. But they learned from these set backs and created bigger and more profitable ventures. Most successful authors have had many rejections before finding a publisher willing to accept their work. JK Rowling of Harry Potter fame is a great example of this.

When we fail at something we need to stop feeling as though we have failed as a person. We didn’t fail as a person; we just tried something that didn’t work. Failure should not be taken personally. It is simply something that happened, not define who we are. We need to see failure as a requirement for moving towards our goals, and even learn to be thankful for our failures. When you fail at something, take the time to write down why it failed, and work out what you could have done differently to prevent that failure. Use logic rather than emotion, and take full responsibility for the actions you took which resulted in the failure. Now you have a plan to avoid the failure when you try again in the future. If you find that you’re having difficulty getting over the failure, think of it as a stepping-stone on the route to your eventual success, and remind yourself of your overall goal.

Don’t let failure have a negative impact on your emotions and stop you from moving forward. If your current strategy isn’t working, don’t be afraid to stop what you are doing and consider a different approach.
Above all, remember that the person who never fails is the person who never tries or achieves anything. You will fail sometimes in pursuit of your goals, but it’s the lessons you learn from each failure that will help you to eventually succeed. Sometimes a failure can even open doors to even greater opportunities, for example if you fail to get the job you were after, you may see a better one, or even decide to start your own business. All it takes is a shift in your mindset to change that failure into success. To learn more about attracting success in your life, visit http://www.TheRichestLife.com.

Make Positive Thinking Work For You

September 29, 2009

To be truly successful and happy in your life, positive thinking is critical. The law of attraction is based upon this most basic principle. We attract what think about. Negativity attracts more negativity, and positive thinking attracts positive results.

Out of all the habits we need to create happiness, positive thinking is one of the most difficult to achieve. Even early in life we’re exposed to all kinds of negative influences. Think of all the times when you were a child that you were told not to do something, or else some dire consequence may result. We receive many damaging blows to our self-esteem throughout our lives, and are constantly bombarded by bad news in the media. No wonder people are conditioned to expect events to turn out badly.

The problem is we attract into our lives what we think about. You probably know somebody who always expects things to turn out badly, and is always complaining about how many problems they have to deal with. These folks appear to have more than their share of bad luck. Their problem isn’t about luck. They’re attracting bad things into their lives by thinking about them and dwelling on them. You may also know people who expect the best, and anticipate that things will turn out well. These people generally attract a positive outcome. By adopting the attitude of positive thinkers, and expecting the best possible outcome at all times, you will attract the things you want in life.

The first and most important step to positive thinking is to change your inner dialogue. Over the next day, make an effort to listen to your thoughts, and notice when you think something negative about yourself, or something that is not in your control. Think what thought you could replace this with instead. For example if the thought ‘I’m terrible with money’ pops into your head, replace that thought by saying to yourself ‘I’ve made mistakes in the past, but I am learning how to manage my money’. Make a habit of stopping those negative thoughts, and turning them into positive ones. This will filter down to your subconscious and you will automatically become what you are thinking.

Another way to build positive thinking is to keep a notebook or journal handy. Every night write down everything positive which happened to you that day. Also, write a list of all your blessings. You may not feel as though you have many, but once you start writing you will see that you actually do have a lot to be thankful for.

We all make mistakes and bad decisions in our lives. Next time this happens, instead of dwelling on it, think about what lessons you’ve learned from it. Think about how you can approach the same situation next time to achieve a positive outcome. Be thankful for the opportunity to learn.

Take responsibility for your life and your actions. Remember that we can’t always choose the things that happen to us, but we can choose how we react to them. If one door closes, look for one that’s opening. The door that closed could turn out to be a blessing in disguise. Positive thinking gives you the power to change your life!

To learn more about positive thinking, and other ways to improve your life, visit http://www.TheRichestLife.com

Steps to Creating Financial Abundance

September 29, 2009

There are many who have read “The Secret”, understand the law of attraction, and yet, haven’t been able to bring financial abundance into their lives. The law of attraction and positive thinking do work, but only if you take action. Thinking about, and picturing financial success alone will not bring you anything. It’s just the first step. You do need to think about and clearly define what financial success means to you. For some people it means having enough money to pay the bills. For others financial success means having enough money in the bank so that they never have to work again. However you define financial success, here are a few steps you must take once you’ve defined your goals.

The first thing you have to do is create personal financial statements. These don’t have to be elaborate or done by a CPA, but you need to write out your current financial situation. Writing everything out will give you a clear understanding of your current situation. There’s no way to create a plan to get to your end goal if you don’t know where you’re starting.

Write out a list of all of your assets. Next to each asset, write an estimation of its current market value and what debt, if any, is owed on that asset. Also add any debt that isn’t tied to an asset you still have, such as credit cards. If you total up all of your assets and then subtract the total of all your debts, this is your net worth. For many, this number will be negative. Whatever the result, don’t let it bring you down. Remember, we’re just establishing a starting point to work from, not punishing ourselves for past mistakes.

The next list we’re going to make is a list of monthly expenditures. Write down each monthly recurring bill you have, such as rent, car payments, utilities, etc. After you’ve listed your monthly bills, use your checking, savings, and credit card statements to determine where you spend other money. Make sure you list food, entertainment, clothes, travel, etc. On the other side of the page, write down your monthly income from all sources. Adding these numbers up will allow you to determine if you’re a net saver, or spender. Again, these numbers may be ugly, but acknowledging your situation is the first step to improving it.

Now that we know where we are, let’s start working towards where we want to be. In order to have financial abundance, you must be a net saver. If you’re a net spender, you’re stuck in a cycle of increasing debt that must be broken in order to prosper. Take a look at the page with your income and monthly expenditures. If there are ways to increase your income, that’s great, but you need to focus on the expense side of the paper. You need to look long and hard at how you can cut your expenses. Every budget has items that aren’t necessary. It may mean living with less extravagance, it may even mean living like a pauper, but you must become a net saver. If you’re already a net saver, find ways to increase your monthly savings.

Once you’re net saver, you need to start tackling debt. Not all debt is created equal. Some debt is good, some is bad, and some is really bad. You want to pay down your really bad debt first. Really bad debt is debt you incurred for something that no longer has much, or any value, such as credit card debt. Start by paying off the highest interest rate card you have. Once the really bad debt is gone, start tackling bad debt, which is debt on an asset you still have, but depreciates, such as a car, boat. Once you get to the good debt, you can decide if you want to pay it off, or use your savings to invest. Good debt is debt tied to appreciable assets, such as a home or business, and is tax deductible. Often times, it’s in your best interest to keep this debt, and invest your savings.

Once you get to the point where your monthly net savings are going into investments such as businesses, real estate, stocks, or bonds, you will be creating true financial abundance! To learn more about creating financial abundance using the law of attraction, visit http://www.TheRichestLife.com.

Stop Procrastinating (Today)

September 29, 2009

If you’re constantly putting off important tasks until later, you’re also putting off happiness and success. Breaking the cycle of procrastination can be difficult to do, but if you use the concepts from the law of attraction, you can break the cycle in just one day. Here are a few tips to help you stop procrastinating, and start living the life you’ve always imagined yourself living.

Before you get started each morning, you need to motivate yourself. Imagine how you will feel once you’ve accomplished the tasks for the day. Also, think about the end result of accomplishing your goals. If your goals are to lose weight, picture yourself looking and feeling good. If your goals are financial, picture yourself in a state of financial security.

Procrastination can be caused by a lack of focus and direction. Make a list of what tasks need to be completed each day. Make the list manageable. Don’t set out so many tasks that you might not finish. If your list ends up being too short, you can always add to it later, but not being able to finish your list can be demoralizing. Being demoralized by not finishing your list will keep you entrenched in the cycle of procrastination. Commit to starting and finishing each item on the list before moving to the next. Make a step-by-step plan for each task, and commit yourself to completing one step at a time. Breaking each task down into smaller chunks makes bigger tasks seem less daunting. Any task, which appears to be too big, can cause us to put if off because it appear too difficult to complete. Broken down into bite size pieces, it appears easier to finish.

Tackle the unpleasant items on your list first. One of the reasons we put off certain tasks is because we’d rather not have to do them. Each day when you write your to-do list, put the tasks your dread the most at the top of the list. Knock off the first task right away. Don’t dwell on it, just do it. Once you’ve completed the first task, they just keep getting easier. Here’s the best part; the most unpleasant tasks often turn out to be a lot easier than you think once you take action. Once the difficult tasks are out the way, you’ll feel much more motivated to complete the easier items on your list.

After you’ve cleared your list for the day, reward yourself. Your reward doesn’t need to be something big. Maybe it’s a little snack, or just some quiet time to yourself, but make sure you give yourself something for a job well done.

Once you’ve broken the cycle for just one day, each day gets easier. However, it’s important to make sure you don’t slip back into the cycle. Take each day as if you’re still trying to stop procrastinating. Before long, procrastination will be nothing more than a distant memory, and you will be achieving all of your life’s goals!

To learn more about how to meet your goals and improve your life using the law of attraction, visit http://www.therichestlife.com.